Many divas, many mics! Missing Camp Pride. For those of you who are unfamiliar with Camp, it’s a 5-day summer leadership program for LGBTQ and Ally college students and advisers who are interested in making change on their campus. The focus is on skill building and you get to meet and make friends with so many amazing people from across the United States.
The theme of the new issue of Bi Women is “The Bi*-Trans* Connection.”
I’ll begin by explaining why “bi*” and “trans*,” rather than “bi” and “trans”: These terms reference the constellation of identities that people use to describe, respectively, non-binary sexual orientation and gender identities. There are so many different terms in use to describe the spaces between and outside of gay/straight, man/woman and male/female, and bi* and trans* refer to all of these terms.
And why this theme? I have long seen a connection between bi* and trans* communities. Our existence disrupts binaries. We are often omitted or excluded from LGBT discourse and spaces. Our legitimacy and very existence is too often disputed. Some of us are both bi* and trans*. And we have the potential to be powerful allies to one another. I have been proud of the moments when we have created alliances and I want to strengthen these alliances and move the conversation forward.
You will find in these pages essays, poems, photography and creative writing, as well as the usual “Around the World” feature, with an interview with Sally Goldner from Melbourne, Australia. There are reports on the first bi issues roundtable meeting at the White House and of the Out & Equal Workplace Summit. Jennie R. reviews The B Word. Pauline Park talks about the history of bi* and trans* inclusion in NYC.
And finally, there’s Ask Tiggy, News Briefs and a rich calendar of events.
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[Image: Three photos. The first shows Laverne Cox, a beautiful Black trans woman with long light colored hair seated, head tilted, across from CeCe McDonald, a beautiful Black trans woman seen from behind, as they speak. The second photo is a shot of a row of prison cells. The third is a picture of CeCe McDonald speaking with the back of Laverne Cox shown.]
FREE CECE, the new documentary with Laverne Cox, explores the roles race, class and gender played in CeCe McDonald’s case. McDonald’s claim of self defense was rejected by Hennepin County prosecutors. The documentary explores the implications of CeCe’s story as a survivor, housing trans women in male prisons, and the practice of keeping trans women in solitary confinement.
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B O O S T
When I look back on my life, I realize that I spend 10 solid years trying to figure out what the hell was up with my sexual orientation.
Now. To be clear, I realized on the night of January 10th 2003 that I was a bisexual. It was just suddenly, easily, and completely obvious to me.
So what do I mean when I say I spent a decade of my life trying to figure out my sexual orientation?
I mean that I spent a decade trying to overcome biphobia, both internalized and that which was coming from those around me, and that struggled took the form of just…. constantly thinking "Gosh, am I gay or straight? It’s so confusing, I mean, on one hand I like women, but on the other, I like men? Hm. Am I gay or straight?"
This was after I had realized, suddenly, easily, and completely obviously to me, that I was bisexual.
It took me a decade of knowing I was bisexual to stop asking myself whether I was gay or straight. What is that about?
Personally I think it was about language. The language you speak, the words you know, hear, use… that shapes how you think. The question “Are you gay or straight” was posed to me so many times, by those around me, buy the media I consumed, by every stupid assumption made by our society, that I internalized the question of my sexual identity as “are you gay or straight?” even though I already knew that I was bisexual.
I’m not sure if this post makes sense. I’m writing it rather hastily, but mostly, I just want to know if maybe that whole “confused bisexuals” steretype doesn’t come from the fact that we don’t know our orientation, but rather from the fact that 9 times out of 10 the question being posed, internally and externally, simply doesn’t give any option that makes sense?
I never really noticed how often my brain posed the question “so are you gay or straight?” or “so are you more gay or more straight?” “do you like boys or girls more” until I went half a year without it happening. When it occurred again recently, I immediately scoffed at myself. “What the fuck does that have to do with anything?” I thought.
I’m a bisexual.
Maybe I’ve just said it enough times that it’s louder in my head than that stupid, useless question that kept me awake at night so often.
Maybe I’ve just spent enough time with enough people talking about bisexuality in it’s own right, (I mean you lovely tumblr folks), that I have gained the language I needed, so when I think about my sexuality, “are you straight or gay” isn’t even on the list of things my brain supplies?
I’m sorry this post is a ramble, hopefully someday I’ll have the language I need to express this clearly.
New phone case!
Bi pride colors!
It looks more red here due to the blanket but IRL it is pink, lavender and blue! <3
DO WANT. =D
Note: This, along with hundreds of other bi pride items, can be purchased at BiNet USA’s online store.
#AskPointScholars Responds to Question: Will being bisexual prevent me from even being considered for a scholarship?
From our #AskPointScholars inbox: “Will being bisexual prevent me from even being considered for a scholarship?”
Scholar Gregory Davis answers: “Being bisexual benefited my application; I was able to add to the diversity of the Point Scholars and make sure other voices were heard. I would encourage you to apply and join the other bisexuals in the Point family.”
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